Why did they do that? Why did they say that? How can people be so hurtful?
These are questions that I have asked many times over, usually the answer is I don’t know why.
What do you do when people say things or do things that upset you? How do you handle the situation?
There are a few things we should do and a few things we shouldn’t.
- We shouldn’t retaliate or hit back;
- We shouldn’t curse them or be angry.
Sometimes there is just no answer as to why people are the way they are. Retaliating isn’t the way to go and we are trying to teach our children to not hit back when it happens to them, by showing them how we handle these situations.
- We should forgive them;
- We should bless them;
- We should pray for them.
Our family has a saying: build a bridge and get over it, but can we really get over it without forgiveness. Another thing we can do is to ask God to bless those who hurt us.
My husband heard the saying the other day – “being able to forgive mightn’t be able to help yesterday but will bless you tomorrow”.
We can never go back but we can always move forward with God and his help. Forgiving others will enable us to go on and actually release us to prayer for them.
Luke 6:28-29 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you, To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold you tunic either.
Luke 6:37 Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.
Do you find yourself walking around the house having conversations in your head with people who have upset you? I find myself doing this quite often – saying to those who have hurt me what I really wanted to say to their face. Then the Holy Spirit convicts me and I stop myself and ask for forgiveness and ask God to bless them and their family. This act really helps me stop thinking about it and helps me turn my feelings of frustration and anger to love, prayer and forgiveness.
So when people hurt you in either word or deed, ask God to help you turn the other cheek and forgive them and then ask God to bless them.
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Wow – this is a hard one! Forgiving someone who hurt you can be so hard to do. I just have to take it to prayer – again and again and again – until God helps to turn my heart.
Thanks for your comment Kathryn and thank you for sharing. Blessings.
Thank you for this. I’m dealing with this right now. Feeling very hurt and trying not to be angry. I stumbled across your blog through a blog hop listing and feel I was supposed to read this. I looked at another post of your farm you did on the 21st. Your farm is lovely. My husband and I used to have a lovely place in TN but we now live in the city. It’s just not the same and we miss the peace and beauty of the country. Thank you again. God Bless
Hi Stefanie, Thank you for your comment, I hope this post has helped you somewhat, as just writing it reminded me of what I need to do when I am hurt. Blessings.
What a great saying “Build a Bridge and Get Over it”!! I need to use that in my house. And the saying your husband heard is another good one. Forgiveness is such a great idea until you are the one that has to do it and then the challenge starts! Thanks for this post.
Thanks for your comment Stephanie, you are so right, it is easy to say it until it is your turn. Blessings.
I love that, “We can never go back but we can always move forward with God and his help.”. So true! Forgiving those who hurt us can be so difficult. But, when we do, it unlocks our hearts to love again.
Blessings, Joan
Thanks Joan for your comment. Blessings