Hi there, welcome back to our first link up for 2017.
This month’s topic is…
WHEN YOU’VE BEEN LET DOWN
Have you ever been let down?? By friends or family??
It’s a tough thing, especially when you come to the realisation that you don’t mean the same thing to someone as they do to you.
How do we deal with disappointment and hurt. I know we’ve talked plenty on forgivesness and taking our thoughts captive and we know that forgiveness is imperative to our faith walk.
But… when we’ve been let down by someone we love how do we deal with it.
I think the important realisation for my husband and myself is that when we have put certain people up there in our thinking (on a pedestal) and then something happens and they let us down we are devastated.
There is no person that we can or should put on a pedestal, because man is man and man being man they will sin and let us down and hurt us and if we are being honest with ourselves we can hurt others too, so the important thing is to take our reliance off of people and only rely on God.
We need to be close to God and then when the hurts come we can give them to him in prayer and supplication, asking for His forgiveness and a heart to love those who have let us down.
Here’s another thing… what if that person that let you down and hurt you isn’t sorry or doesn’t care, how easy is it to forgive when there is no reconciliation?? I know for me I find this terribly difficult and need to be constantly working on my attitude and my heart.
We are going through some stuff at the moment and we have been terribly let down, but the key is taking our thoughts captive, giving them over to God and asking Him to bless them and us.
Now as we all know this is easier said than done…those conversations that we have in our head or that we mutter about all day rule our hearts and we need to stop it and concentrate on God.
A good friend of mine has been memorising scripture, big amounts at a time and has found this the best thing for stopping the thoughts that lead to worries and disappointment. She said that as soon as she wakes during the night she recites the scriptures in her head and that is what she focuses on. What a great idea..
Wouldn’t it be great if the first thing that came to mind was scripture and not the issues we are facing.
There are so many scriptures that we could focus on, the Lord’s word is such a gift and tool for everyday life. Here are some I found that are so comforting.
Nahum 1:7 – “The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him.”
Zephaniah 3:17 – “The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”
Psalm 91:14-16 – “”Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”
Psalm 23:1-6 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows
Revelation 21:3-4 – “And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
What a blessing the Word of God is in our lives, let’s make sure that we immerse ourselves in it, and use it as our comfort and shield.
The most important thing is God NEVER lets us down.
So how do you deal with disappointment and being let down by those you love???
I would love to hear from you this month on this topic and if you don’t have a post to link up please leave me your thoughts in the comment section, I need all the help I can get.
Also please forgive me if I delete your post if it doesn’t relate to our topic for the month. Please feel free to pop over to our Good Morning Mondays Link Up each week if you have something else you would like to share.
Have a great month and I look forward to hearing from you.
Blessings to you all xxxxx
You will find me linked up at some of these great blogs.
Terri, I’m sharing my review of a book that I read last summer about suffering. These authors (2 professors from Moody, I think) share Scriptural truth about the problem of pain that I had never considered before, and the truth is that so much of what I consider to be “suffering” in my comfortable North American life is really better described as disappointment, as you have described so well here in this post.
Thanks for the effort you invest in this space and for giving us one more place to share our thoughts on topics that impact our Christian walk.
Thanks Michele for sharing at the Wednesday Link Up. I’ll get a chance to pop over this week and look at your post and book review. Blessings to you.
These passages are really encouraging for me. I’ve been estranged from my mother for a year and recently my father also. They are not believers and are very toxic people to have in my life. They are abusive and gaslight about the abuse. For my own mental wellbeing I had to walk away from them both. It is easy to forgive but not when the abuse continues. Forgiving them does not mean I must facilitate further abuse. It doesn’t mean I need to allow myself to be hurt as though God is glorified in this abuse. So I called time on it. Sometimes the only option left is to walk away.
Hey there Liz thank you for sharing your situation with us. I can only imagine how hard your situation must be and I pray that God will give you comfort and Grace to help you through it. Blessings to you.