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Diaries of the Heart

WHY AM I OFFENDED???

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Has someone ever offended you???  Have you ever in your hurt and anger passed on that offense to someone else??

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In other words have you gossiped about what someone has done to you to a friend or relative and given them your offense.

How can we give our offense to someone else you say?? It is so easy and I am so guilty of this, both in the giving and the receiving.

For example, someone will say or do something that hurts my feelings, now I tell my husband or one of my friends and then because they love me they feel badly for me and possibly start having bad feelings about that someone who hurt me.

I have a strong sense of justice, in other words I don’t like to see people wronged so it is so easy for me to say “hey that’s not fair” and “they shouldn’t have said that” when someone shares with me.

I start to feel offended for my husband/friend and then I carry that offense in my heart against the offending person. I start to view the offending person in a bad light and maybe even have conversations with that person in my head about what they shouldn’t do.

See how it is building up, then it turns into unforgiveness, even though that person never did anything to me.

Phew, what a problem I am in now and there are many scriptures that say why I shouldn’t feel this way.

Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Luke 6:37 Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

Colossians 3:13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Here are just a few and I haven’t even hit Proverbs and all the scriptures against gossiping.

Now my husband is a good one for telling me to not be offended and to always look at the motivation of the person who may have said something to me that I didn’t like.  He is a good balance to my emotions and I appreciate this in him.

Even though my husband is a great help in these situations, only God is able to really heal the hurt and take the offense away.

I so need to remember this before I open my mouth!!!

Psalms 55:22 Cast your burden upon the LORD and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken.

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Diaries of the Heart

RUMOURS – DO THEY START WITH YOU

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Rumours – how do they start.  They must start somewhere.

We have a couple at church who are now separated and there are some awful rumours going around about them.

Where do these rumours start??  Do start with the couple with the problems or do they come just out of peoples heads?

Maybe the wife shared with a friend and that friend shared with another good friend – under the guise of a prayer request.

Maybe the husband did the same, who knows, but once the rumours are out there they are very hard to get back.

I know that I have often asked people to pray for certain people and shared issues, has my motivation been correct and good.

Maybe – maybe not.

Maybe when we ask people to pray for certain situations we shouldn’t name the people we should just name the problem.  God knows everything so I am sure He will know who we are praying for.

Gossip is a dreadful, terrible and hurtful sin and we should make sure that we are not a part of it.

I don’t want anyone to be hurt from my careless loose tongue.  I only want people to be blessed, but it all comes down to me and my mouth.

1 Timothy 5:13 Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.

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Women (me in particular) have the ability to talk.  I can talk and talk about things with my husband and my children and my friends.  I just natter away about my life, what I’m cooking for tea or what I am blogging about.  It just comes out, it is a natural flow like lava, but when this lava flow turns to other people and their issues it should be stopped short.

Sometimes I just talk and before I realise it I have shared things that just aren’t my business to share.  I feel saddened and depressed by this and wish that I could take back the words.  Unfortunately the words can’t be taken back but I can repent and ask God to forgive my thoughtless attitude and then most importantly I can ask Him to help me to strive to not do it again. I don’t want to go around that mountain more times than necessary because not only does it leave me feeling depressed and a bit dirty but it also hurts someone else.

Do you have these issues also??  Let us ask God to help us change this character trait in our lives.  Let us ask God to turn our tongue to doing good, to praising Him and encouraging others in their faith walk.

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