Rumours – how do they start.  They must start somewhere.

We have a couple at church who are now separated and there are some awful rumours going around about them.

Where do these rumours start??  Do start with the couple with the problems or do they come just out of peoples heads?

Maybe the wife shared with a friend and that friend shared with another good friend – under the guise of a prayer request.

Maybe the husband did the same, who knows, but once the rumours are out there they are very hard to get back.

I know that I have often asked people to pray for certain people and shared issues, has my motivation been correct and good.

Maybe – maybe not.

Maybe when we ask people to pray for certain situations we shouldn’t name the people we should just name the problem.  God knows everything so I am sure He will know who we are praying for.

Gossip is a dreadful, terrible and hurtful sin and we should make sure that we are not a part of it.

I don’t want anyone to be hurt from my careless loose tongue.  I only want people to be blessed, but it all comes down to me and my mouth.

1 Timothy 5:13 Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.


Women (me in particular) have the ability to talk.  I can talk and talk about things with my husband and my children and my friends.  I just natter away about my life, what I’m cooking for tea or what I am blogging about.  It just comes out, it is a natural flow like lava, but when this lava flow turns to other people and their issues it should be stopped short.

Sometimes I just talk and before I realise it I have shared things that just aren’t my business to share.  I feel saddened and depressed by this and wish that I could take back the words.  Unfortunately the words can’t be taken back but I can repent and ask God to forgive my thoughtless attitude and then most importantly I can ask Him to help me to strive to not do it again. I don’t want to go around that mountain more times than necessary because not only does it leave me feeling depressed and a bit dirty but it also hurts someone else.

Do you have these issues also??  Let us ask God to help us change this character trait in our lives.  Let us ask God to turn our tongue to doing good, to praising Him and encouraging others in their faith walk.



  1. I’ve read a couple posts lately that kinda struck home… And this is one of them. Sometimes I only realise how wrong my motives for sharing were, after the sharings done. Praise God for His mercy and forgiveness and grace to live better!

  2. According to George Harrison, “gossip is the devil’s radio”.

    I tend not to gossip. Not because I’m a man, but because the only conversation I have is with either my wife, or with the 26 dogs that we’ve got in our sanctuary for the abandoned and unwanted.

    However…I used to be an academic before I got sick, and gossip there was rampant, and often very destructive. Professors would gossip to colleagues, to graduate students – and sometimes undergraduates – about the performance, qualifications, and personality of other professors. It could be horribly uncomfortable, because declining to be drawn in was effectively an act of taking sides.

    Better to chat with the dogs.

    1. Thanks Andrew, I agree sometimes it is hard to just not say anything and be accused of taking sides. Sounds like you are better off where you are now with your wife and your animals. Blessings.

  3. Such an easy trap for believers to fall into. All in the name of prayer. I like your comment, “Pray for the situation NO NAMES.” Good, needful post. Visiting from Winsome Wednesdays.

  4. This is such a good warning and reminder. A few years ago, God alerted me to the verse in Proverbs that says, “The law of kindness is in her lips.” I remember that… and I want it to always be true.. it is a good filter for what we might be tempted to say. Thank you for sharing this.

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