When No 2 son was a baby he had terrible eczema, his face was a bleeding, weeping mess and it took a couple of years for us to get it under control, now his cheeks are just lovely and smooth. He still gets rashes but we seem to be able to manage them better.
Now there were a lot of people feeling sorry for him and they were constantly saying “oh the poor little fellow”, and so on and our reply was always “there is nothing poor about him”.
You see it’s not that we didn’t feel sorry for him, we did, but we didn’t want him growing up thinking that he had something wrong with him, something that made him feel poor.
We didn’t want him developing a “POOR ME” complex. We wanted him to grow up accepting the things that he had to go through and to remember to turn to God in all these things.
As most of us know, life isn’t always fair and the sooner we accept this the sooner we can grow and develop and live.
If we continue to look at “poor old me” instead of looking at others and helping them, we will probably find that our problems, attitudes and health will deteriorate.
We have a friend who is always looking at her own problems, rarely does she see what others are going through. She seems to be getting sicker and growing older very quickly. I feel if she had a “can do” attitude instead of a “poor me” one her life would be a whole lot brighter
Now no 2 son still shouldn’t eat certain things and I will say to him that something or other (especially chocolate and dairy) will make him itch. Sometimes he eats it and comes back to me and points at his rash and I say “well you decided to eat it, so get used to it”.
Now I’m sorry if some think this is tough, but I’m not sorry for making him move on from his problems. Either he eats it or he doesn’t but if he chooses to eat something that affects him, then that’s his problem.
So I think we should turn our eyes to Jesus, forget about “poor me”, basically look up and live in the Grace and Mercy bestowed upon us.
Hebrews 12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
8 thoughts on “POOR ME”
I completely agree with how you handled your son’s situation. If only more parents practiced tough love, we would have a stronger society of men and women. And I would say the same thing, “you made a decision and now you need to accept the consequences”. How else can you teach that for every action there is a reaction. For every sin, there is a consequence.
Thanks for sharing the truth on the Art of Home-Making Mondays.
Thanks Jes, it is nice to hear from someone who agrees with us and sees things the same way. Thank you for your encouragement and your link up. Blessings to you and your family this Christmas.
This kind of attitude and perspective seems to grow a beautiful strength and humility in a person – and really, what a gift to offer your son, or any child. Thank you for this insight.
Thank you for your thoughtful comment Amber, have a blessed Christmas.
What a gift you have given your son…to count his blessings and not his challenges and to look for ways he can bless others. Thanks for sharing with us at Testimony Tuesday!
Thanks Holly for hosting, have a great Christmas. Blessings
I love how you are growing your son into a man who looks to God and is able to count his blessings. What a gift you are giving to him. Thank you for linking to The Weekend Brew. Blessings!
Thanks Mary, Blessings to you at this wonderful New time of the year.