Are you a navel gazer?? This is the term my husband uses when people can only see their own issues.

Do all your problems and issues make you look just at yourself or can you see how others are being affected by your problems or are there others going through the same things.

Sometimes we go through such tough stuff that we can’t imagine anyone else having anything worse, due to our grief and sorrow all we can see is ourselves.

When we are going through issues my saying to myself is: “There is always someone else going through something tougher than us”. That always makes me able to handle issues a bit easier because of this realization.

When our daughter passed away at 26 weeks gestation I remember saying this to the nurse and then saying to her that I couldn’t think of any one I knew who had gone through worse. God gently reminded me of dear friends of ours who had lost a child at about the same age of our daughter only months before.  The mother had then suffered from heart issues and various other medical problems and was hospitalized for some time.  Then I realized that although our daughter had been birthed into Jesus’ arms, I was still well and able to care for the children I still had, not like my friend.

I hope our troubles give us understanding and sympathy towards others going through the same situations.  I hope we use our knowledge and experience to help these people, to somehow deal with what is going on.

Otherwise what is the point!!

Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.


I believe that God allows these things to happen to us for our good and His purpose.  We need to stop looking at ourselves and our problems and start thinking about God and His purpose in our lives.

Now please don’t think that I am perfect.  I struggle with every issue we have and wonder what is the point, but when I get through the fog of grief or worry I try and go, oh maybe this is for a reason.

15450879862_c70409151b_qThere has to be more to life than just ourselves, more to life than just worrying about how we are getting on.  Let us turn our eyes toward the Lord and ask Him how we can use our situation to help others.


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4 thoughts on “NAVEL GAZING”

  1. I am so sorry for your loss – I don’t know what you would have been through. I do tend to get a bit down with things I think are problems until God sends you a little reminder that it isn’t all about you. My reminder last week was a letter from one of my sponsor children. I hadn’t had a letter from him in quite a while and was wondering if something had happened. When his letter came, it contained this sentence – “My dad is no longer living with us because he was very angry and he used to treat me very bad.” When I read that sentence, my mind conjured all sorts of images that this poor little 9 year old boy could have gone through. And it really re-focused me. Thanks to God for always giving us just the push we need.

    1. Thanks Jayne for your comment and yes you are so right, what that little boy must have gone through seems far worse than our little issues. Thank you for sharing this with me, it has helped me also this morning. Blessings

  2. Very true words… And if we proclaim to believe in a God, we must accept that to everything there is a purpose and to encourage others that may be weaker going through a similar situation would be blessing as He teaches…

    Thanks for sharing this on the Art of Home-Making Mondays!

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