Fire can be scary and very dangerous. It can destroy bush land, pastures and homes within minutes.


Fire can also be used to renew bush area and here in Australia (in our part anyway) the Country Fire Brigade burns off parts of our bush each year to control vegetation.  When this isn’t done the vegetation gets out of control and if a fire starts it can be uncontrollable and do heaps more damage.

When the bush is burnt it is a bleak scene, but it doesn’t take long for the bush to rejuvenate. New shoots start to appear and they are vibrant and green.


You can see the scars of the fire for years after but eventually the evidence passes away under the new growth that appears.

So fires can be good, fires can keep us warm, fires can cook our food, and fires that refine are the best.

God talks about refining fires in His word.

Isaiah 48:10  Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tried you in the furnace of affliction.

In October 2009 our daughter was birthed into the arms of Jesus at 26 weeks gestation. I never thought this would ever happen to us, we’ve had friends go through the same thing but it wasn’t ever going to be us.

All of a sudden, our daughter stopped kicking and nothing I could do would make her start. It seemed that everything went into limbo mode that very moment when the doctor said she wasn’t moving.

We had to travel from our local town to the hospital where I was going to give birth and again there was no movement, no heartbeat, she was gone.

Well if that wasn’t a fire of affliction I don’t know what is. It hurt bad, and it was so hard to explain to the older children why. We still don’t know why, we never sent her beautiful body away to be checked out. We had already had 4 healthy children and it was just one of those things.

But through this fire God brought hope and love and comfort.  I have had c-sections for all of our children and let’s just say the whole process at times hasn’t been enjoyable. This time is was a fantastic experience. The nurses, the doctors and all involved were absolutely fantastic. I had nurses help me that had seen me through that last 2 births and there was a certain amount of comerarderie that I never expected to feel.

They cared for my husband and I with such love. The nurse who was on the night we went in stayed behind to pick out clothes for our little one and then brought them to us the next morning.

So through this fire of affliction we gained so much, we felt so much and we learnt so much. God never left us for one moment of that time, he carried us through with His wonderful love and grace.

I can’t really talk about this time without shedding tears, and I am crying now as I write this, but that’s okay, rain like fire can renew too.

The pain does diminish but never really goes away, like a bush fire there is always evidence in our lives of our pain, but new growth begins and God renews us with His love.

God gave us a great gift through this period, the gift of grief. We now understand what it is to grieve and we understand that grief comes in different forms and everyone grieves differently and that also is okay. There are no rule books for grief.

If you are going through a loss you may not view your grief as a gift, and I didn’t for a long time but this grief has helped us have compassion when others are going through tough times. It has given us a heart to help people whenever we can.

We can’t watch sad movies anymore and I much prefer a comedy to a drama.  Little House On The Prairie is definitely out of bounds.

God hasn’t blessed us with any more children and I have come to a place where that is alright. He has blessed us with grandchildren so we see new life every time we see them.

We are also comforted to know that our little girl is already with our Saviour and we know that this separation will not last forever and we will spend eternity with her.

If you are going through God’s refining fire at the moment, be assured you aren’t going through it alone, God is always with you, and He has given you His word and the Holy Spirit to give comfort as well.

1 Peter 1:7 so that the tested genuineness of your faith – more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire – may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.



28 thoughts on “FIRE RENEWS”

  1. Oh, dear friend! I am SO sorry to hear of your deep sorrow. Surely the dear Lord has upheld you with His right hand and drawn you close through your heartache. We don’t always understand the reasons for the fiery trials in our lives, and maybe we never will see until we are on the other side. Then it truly will not matter, because we will be face-to-face with Jesus. Oh, what a day that will be! You will hold that precious baby, and the two of you will never part again!! God bless you and comfort your dear hearts.

    1. Thank you so much Cheryl for your heartfelt words, they so encouraged me. It will be a wonderful day when we go to be with Jesus, all the hurt, pain and anguish will go away and nothing else will be a problem, what a wonderful thought. Thank you again for your words and your friendship, they mean so much, like you say, more than you could know. Blessings to you and your dear family. xxxx

  2. I am deeply sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. It is a beautiful thing to see how God can take even our most difficult moments of brokenness and redeem them for good. How wonderful that He surrounded you with love and care, lavishing His affection on you through the care of others.
    Many blessings to you sweet one,

    1. Thank you so much Kamea for your kind and encouraging comment. It is comments like this that help bring peace as well, knowing that people care is such a blessing. Thanks for stopping by. Blessings and have a great week.

  3. A season of infertility and the sudden death of my father-in-law taught me more about grief than I ever thought possible. Grief is weird. It’s always there, really, but it changes with time and other experiences. I do know it’s part of the thread of God’s story in our lives. I’m glad I linked up next to you at SDG.

    1. Thank you so much Kristin for your comment and for sharing your experiences with us. You are right grief is weird and I believe it stays with us and shapes who we are and it definitely is a part of the thread of God’s story in our lives. Thanks for stopping by. Blessings

  4. I’ve experienced loss through late miscarriage and know of the fire you speak. I learned compassion, the deepest knowing that everyone, every where is going through something. My heart is forever softened toward women facing infertility or loss related to childbirth. I wouldn’t know grief or the compassion that grew from it had I not walked through the flames myself. Blessings on you as you remember your daughter and all the good that came from her life. I’m your neighbor at the #SmallWonder link-up.

  5. Oh.
    This post is tears at my heart. I’ve never been to Australia, but I remember the summer that I travelled with my family and we saw the devastation brought about by forest fire. It was years old, but could still be clearly seen.
    This is a silhouette of the devastation you describe so well with the loss of your dear daughter. You have offered up your heart break and loss and allowed the Lord to minister to others through it. Thank you and Happy Mother’s Day.

  6. Oh Terri, I am sorry for this heart ache for you but am rejoicing in your ability to share. Thank-you, you give me hope. Today I found out that I have to undergo another C-section May 29th, but I felt such a great peace about it all. My little fireball in the back seat began singing “Let the Lord have His way…” That’s all it took and I knew he’s right. Peace and rest come with placing it all in God’s hands. I don’t even have to know why about a lot of things anymore. May God just really bless you in a special way this week.

    1. Thanks Jeannie for your comment and for blessing me so much with your friendship. I am glad that you feel peace about the c-section and your baby will be born on our oldest sons birthday. New life is always a blessing. I will be praying that all goes well and that you continue to feel peace and comfort during this time. Your little fireball sounds just fantastic and what a blessing with him singing that song, really makes it all worthwhile. Have a great week and blessings to you all too.

  7. The assurance of knowing that God is always with us is what gives us the strength to go thru challenging times and not lose hope. Thank you for reminding me of that.

  8. I am so grateful you shared this story with us. It never ceases to amaze me what God can do with our trials and our grief, how He can love us so well when our world is falling apart. If you ever feel led to write your story for SDG, I’d be honored to post it.

  9. Terri,

    Thank you for sharing your story. He truly does use the “all things” of our lives for good … helping to conform us to the image of His Son. Knowing that carries us along even in times of deep sorrow. You are so right about people grieving differently. My daughter lost a baby many years ago and at the time it didn’t seem she grieved much outwardly. It wasn’t until much later that I fully understood the depth of her grief.

    Thanks again and thanks for linking up at Mondays @ Soul Survival.

    Blessings, my friend.

    1. Thank you so much Donna for your comment and for sharing about your daughter. Grief comes in all shapes and sizes and sometimes that is so hard to understand and see, but that’s okay, we just need to be there for those suffering. Thanks for stopping by. Blessings

  10. What a precious post… thank you for sharing so transparently and for trusting God through this. I am so sorry for the pain you have gone through… and continue in. There are no easy answers, are there? Sometimes, life hurts… a LOT…. and you are right… there can be a help to our lives with that hurt, but it is not something we would ever choose. I am so thankful that God has promised to meet all of our needs and that He never leaves or forsakes us. May you feel His persistent comfort.

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