We were at a wedding a couple of weeks ago and a couple of our friends were there.
They both looked lovely and I told them that. One was wearing a shorter type of dress with stockings (not immodestly short) and the other a longer style, more trendy dress with fancy leggings.
Now I hate stockings, and I love wearing leggings under my skirts but my husband wouldn’t be happy with me wearing them out to a wedding so I had sandles on – it was a warm day.
Whilst chatting to the two ladies we got into a conversation regarding clothing. The one wearing leggings said she hoped they looked okay and the one wearing stockings said her husband didn’t like leggings and she wasn’t to wear them, and so she didn’t!
Now this lady has only been married about 10 years and was older when this happened, she would now be over 50. She has worked all her life as a teacher so I had presumed she was an independent type of woman.
Well I must admit I was impressed. Here was what I considered a modern independent women submitting willingly to her husband. Wow I had found a soul mate regarding this matter. She wanted to dress to impress her husband, and wouldn’t wear something he didn’t like.
We went onto the reception and then went home and it was on my mind most of the night and the following days. I really felt I needed to say something to her on the matter, it stuck in my memory so strongly.
The next Sunday when I saw her at church I commented to her on how impressed I was that she did this. She was quite matter of fact about it and stated that you needed to listen to your husband on these matters.
Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
This really encouraged me to make sure that I was dressing to impress my husband and not myself or anyone else.
I know that my husband likes me to wear floral fabrics. Now this isn’t always possible but if I can, that is what I do. He doesn’t like me to wear denim out so I have stopped that. My husband likes me to wear skirts and not pants and I have become so used to that, I don’t think I could go back.
I love my husband and want to make sure that I am submitting to him as he submits to Christ.
I just want to encourage you to make sure that your husband is happy with how you dress, it isn’t the issue whether it’s skirts or pants or florals or stripes. The issue is he is always the one you need to impress, not anyone else.
PS: I am not perfect that’s for sure and I still struggle at times with this so please don’t think I have it all sorted. I write this to encourage myself mostly.