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Why did they do that?  Why did they say that? How can people be so hurtful?

These are questions that I have asked many times over, usually the answer is I don’t know why.

What do you do when people say things or do things that upset you? How do you handle the situation?

There are a few things we should do and a few things we shouldn’t.

  • We shouldn’t retaliate or hit back;
  • We shouldn’t curse them or be angry.

Sometimes there is just no answer as to why people are the way they are.  Retaliating isn’t the way to go and we are trying to teach our children to not hit back when it happens to them, by showing them how we handle these situations.

  • We should forgive them;
  • We should bless them;
  • We should pray for them.

Our family has a saying: build a bridge and get over it, but can we really get over it without forgiveness.  Another thing we can do is to ask God to bless those who hurt us.


My husband heard the saying the other day – “being able to forgive mightn’t be able to help yesterday but will bless you tomorrow”.

We can never go back but we can always move forward with God and his help.  Forgiving others will enable us to go on and actually release us to prayer for them.

Luke 6:28-29 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you, To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold you tunic either.

Luke 6:37 Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.


Do you find yourself walking around the house having conversations in your head with people who have upset you?  I find myself doing this quite often – saying to those who have hurt me what I really wanted to say to their face.  Then the Holy Spirit convicts me and I stop myself and ask for forgiveness and ask God to bless them and their family. This act really helps me stop thinking about it and helps me turn my feelings of frustration and anger to love, prayer and forgiveness.

So when people hurt you in either word or deed, ask God to help you turn the other cheek and forgive them and then ask God to bless them.

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The rainbow is the greatest sign that we have that God will keep His promises.

I love it when we see rainbows and we can explain to the children that this is Gods sign to us that He will never leave us nor forsake us.

He showed a rainbow to Noah and promised him that He would never send a flood again to destroy all people, and God is the only one I know who never breaks a promise.

Genesis 9:11 -13  “I establish my covenant with you, that never again shall all flesh be cut off by the waters of the flood, and never again shall there be a flood to destroy the earth:.  And God said,  “This is the sign of the covenant that I make between me and you and every living creature that is with you for all future generations:  I have set my bow in the cloud, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between me and the earth”.

God is a God of His word.   What He says He means and it will come to pass.

Are we people of our word, do we keep our promises???  

I know that I need to be careful when the children ask for something or to do something that I don’t promise them something I can’t deliver.  I want them to know that when I say something I mean it, and it will come to pass.

When you tell someone you are going to do something do you do it???

It is so easy to say “I will pray for you”, but do we.  Maybe to help us we could have a prayer list so that we can remember all the people we need to pray for.  Our lives are so busy that it is difficult to remember all the things we say we are going to do.  So do we not say them or do we make ways that help us to remember?

I suppose it is both.  I try to be careful with what I promise and offer to do and I am a great list maker and have numerous alarms on my phone to help me remember things.

We should make sure that what we say and promise are possible in our lives and we don’t just flippantly say anything just to be noticed or be important.

Our word represents who we are and who we follow and I want to follow God and endeavour to keep my promises just like He does.




Mothers should we be training our sons to do household duties?

I really believe we should be training them in all aspects of life, not just outside bloke jobs.

There will be times when they need to be able to feed themselves, wash their clothes and look after themselves.  Maybe this will be in the mission field or when their wives have babies.


I believe in Gods order of creation.  Man was created first and women was created to be his helpmeet.  There is nothing anyone could say to make me see any different.

In Ephesians 5 it  says for the Husband to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

I want to prepare my sons to love their wives and to treasure them as their helpmeet.  I want them to realise the work involved in running a home and I also want them to be able to help their wives when the need arises.

Our No 1 son can cook a basic meal and he makes the best omelettes. I had a hernia operation last year and he really looked after us well. He managed all the washing, cleaning and cooking, with the younger ones help.

Our No 2 son who is 6 is just beginning his training and at the moment he empties the dish washer and sets the table, he also brings in the firewood and helps his sister collect eggs.  His duties will develop as he increases in age and I pray that I will have the patience to teach him all he needs to know.

Start training your sons (all your children really, whether girls or boys) as young as you can.  We are preparing our children to be husbands and wives, and to be diligent in all that they do.  This training will require diligence and consistency from us as parents as well and it will be hard work, but it will be fruitful work.

I want to encourage all mothers (and myself as well) to train their sons in the fine art of housekeeping.  It will only benefit them and their family in the future.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

What jobs are you training you sons to do??  Let us know how you go about this training, I need all the help I can get!!!

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Washing seems to be a never ending job.  I finally get the basket empty and the next time I look it is full again.  I wash every day and my youngest daughter helps me with the hanging up and bringing in.


Here are a few ideas that help us get it done a bit easier.

  1. Try and not let the washing get away on you… (easier said than done, I know);
  2. Get the younger ones in to help. We purchased a camping clothes line and our daughter hangs up all the little clothes on this;
  3. Fold your washing as you take it off the line (weather permitting);
  4. Individual drawers –
    • I have a couple sets of drawers in our laundry that I put folded washing into and then the individuals come and get their drawers and put their washing away.  Little ones may require help with this until they get the hang of it.  Mine don’t have wheels but you get the idea.




I don’t use an outside line, I hang our washing under the verandah out the front of the house and it doesn’t fade in the summer and doesn’t get wet when it rains.  This can allow me to leave it there a little bit if I get caught up doing other things.

I hope these tips help you in your washing journey.



Good Morning, I hope you all had a fantastic weekend and are ready to start Monday off with a bang.
I had a great weekend with our No 1 daughter and family visiting.  It was great to see them and also to see our 2 beautiful granddaughters who are growing up so quickly.
Grandad with the girls
Grandad with the girls
Grandchildren are just the best blessing in our lives and I thank God for them and pray for them daily and for the ones to come.
Welcome to the first Good Morning Mondays Link Party.  I am looking forward to seeing all your posts and look forward to sharing your journey in life.
Please link up any posts that relate to God and christian living – especially encouraging or challenging posts, also recipes, crafts, gardening or homesteading as you call it in America and just plain old country living here in Australia.
May your week be filled with God’s presence and love.
Right let’s get started.


The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and maybe more abundant….


This saying is very true of stock both sheep and cattle.  Our cattle and sheep are always poking their heads through the fences to get to the greener and more abundant pasture on the other side.

We practice rotational grazing, and my husband has already locked up a paddock to cut for hay.  Well, we have a great time when we move the stock through this paddock to the next one as they want to stay where the grass is abundant.  It can take quite a while to get them moved with a lot of arm waving and noise.

This saying is very true for us as well.  We seem to be always looking over the proverbial fence at our neighbours and friends and comparing ourselves to them.  Their lives always seem to look more greener and abundant.

Now I must say that I am very content with my lot in life.  I love being home and teaching our children.  I love where we live and I am blessed with the fact that my husband can work shorter hours to be with us a bit more.  We don’t have an abundance of money but we manage to pay our bills and we are happy.  This contentment has been a long time coming with lots of life lessons to get there.

This said I still seem to look over the fence at what others have.  It seems my contentment is not enough to stop the looking.

I learnt a valuable lesson the other day.  I caught up with a friend that I hadn’t seen for quite a while.  She shared how her life was going and what had been happening for them.  I was quite taken back with what she told me.  I thought that their life seem to be quite easy going, finances being abundant, but I was wrong.  I realised that by looking over my fence at their life and comparing us I had missed out on the reality of what was happening.

On their side of the fence they were struggling to make ends meet and my friend was now working full time away from her home and family.

I need to not judge what colour the grass is or how thick and lush it seems to be because sometimes it seems better when it really isn’t.

I don’t always need to look at others and think what they have is better than what we have.  I need to turn my eyes to Jesus and crave Him in my life over anything else.

It says in Hebrews 13:5 Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you”.

It is stating here to keep our lives free from the love of money and be content with what we have.  To me this also means to stop thinking that others have more than us or are better than us and be content with what God has given us.  It means to not think we need to earn more money so that we can buy more things to keep us happy. Things do not bring the happiness and joy that a loving Father can bring.

grass greener

I really smiled when I saw this picture and thought this is so true as well.  Let us stop looking and start watering our own lives with the Word of God and watch it start greening and thickening up.

We don’t need stuff and money to keep us happy?  We don’t need to compare or strive to be like others.  God says He will never leave us nor forsake us, that is all we need.

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This is one of my most favourite cakes and it is so easy to make, I hope you like it.


  • 2 1/2 cups flour
  • 3/4 tsp salt
  • 1 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 1/2 cup shortening (I use olive oil)
  • 1/2 tsp cinnamon
  • 1 tsp vanilla
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 1 cup milk soured with a bit of vinegar
  • apricot halves

Sour the milk with vinegar and let sit.  Mix together the flour, salt, brown sugar and shortening into crumbs.  Save 1 cup of crumbs for top.

Add cinnamon to rest of the crumbs and mix.  Add vanilla, soda and sour milk.  Mix.

Place into greased and lined tin and place apricot halves on top of cake mixture.  Place crumb over apricots and bake in moderate oven for 25 – 30 minutes.

I double this mixture and it makes a nice large cake.

You can really put any fruit on top or if you wanted you could mix it together with the cake mixture, you can also make the cake and use no fruit.  I have used stewed apples and plums.


Crumb cake with icing sugar sprinkled on top
Crumb cake with icing sugar sprinkled on top

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Do you have moments in your life that you wish you could erase???


I do!!!  There have been times when I immediately wished I could take the words or actions back.  Other times it is years later that moments come back to me and I really cringe.

Sometimes I wonder whether I need to go to that person and apologise for something I’ve said or done and sometimes I do.

Why do these moments come back to our memory when we at least expect them or want them too?

I believe these moments are challenging and encouraging us in our journey with God, and also our journey of repentance as well.

If we put aside our cringing feelings we might see how what we said or did has affected others.  Most times these things have not been said or done out of spite.  On my part I put it down to true thoughtlessness, with my mouth working before my brain. This is something I constantly have to work on.

Sometimes I find the memory of these moments encouraging as I know that it was something that I did in my past and I wouldn’t do that now, maybe they show growth and maturity!!

It would be great if we could just press a button and erase these moments in time, but that would be the easy way out and often growth and maturity doesn’t come easy, and I don’t want to inhibit God and our journey together.  I don’t want to inhibit His lessons in my life. (although at the time it isn’t enjoyable)

I pray that God will continue to bring these moments in time back to my memory for whatever reasons He has.  I pray that He continues to work in my life and continues to guide me in my journey of growth and maturity.


How have your moments in time helped you???


SUN RISINGGood morning, morning, hello sunshine, wake up sleepy head….

Are you a morning person??? Well I’m not and never have been.  I love that extra few minutes in bed and really struggle to get up early and get going.

My brain doesn’t seem to really kick into gear until about 9 am and my eyes don’t focus properly for about an hour after I rise.

I have struggled with getting up early since I was a young person.  I would rather have had a late night than an early morning.  My brother was one of those people who could get up at 5 am and study for his exams.  I would set the alarm but just sleep through it.

In my second job we worked flexi-time.  That meant that you could start work anywhere between 7.30 and 9.30 am and could finish from 4 pm onwards.  If you wanted a day off you could work extra hours until you had enough time saved up.  I am sure you can imagine that I wasn’t one to start at 7.30 am and it was rare that I got extra days off.

I struggled somewhat through the night when our babies were little, but somehow I managed to get through it.

Now that our children are getting older I see similarities between them and me.  I especially notice how our younger children react in the morning.

No 2 son wakes up extremely well, he used to be out of bed first and be playing with his lego way before we would be up.  He sleeps a bit longer now but is still quite chirpy and happy in the morning – not like me at all.  He is more like his father who believes that the early morning is the best time of the day.  I think it is the best time of the day to sleep in!!!

No 2 daughter unfortunately is just like me in the morning.  She loves to read at night to get to sleep, and sometimes sleep takes a while to come.  When this happens she struggles to get out of bed in the morning.  Most mornings she isn’t really chirpy and happy.

This has really opened my eyes to how I am in the morning.  I am now aware that I can be grumpy and irritable.  I have been trying to get to bed earlier and be more cheerful in the morning to show her that this is a better way to be.

Proverbs 31 is an amazing chapter in scripture and I am sure we all try to emulate this excellent wife, but I definitely struggle with verse 15.  She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.

How do I rise while it is still night (dark) and organise breakfast for everyone?  How do I find an enthusiasm for getting going in the morning???  How do I show my younger daughter how to do it if I can’t do it myself???

I have a choice.  I can choose to get up and be grumpy or I can choose to get up and be happy and cheerful.  I need to choose the latter.  I’m going to pray each night for God to give me a good restful sleep and ask Him to help me get up and get going.

I want us all to start the day with a good attitude and be enthusiastic in all that we do.  I want to endeavor to do all to His Glory and not my own fleshly desires.

How do you wake up in the morning??  Do you struggle or are you one of the ones who are naturally cheerful??  What do you do to get up and get going???  Any ideas will be gratefully received???


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We are all very excited to have two new arrivals on Darling Downs Farm.  Our Highland Cow “Mildred” had a little bull calf early last week.  I’m not sure what name the children are going to give to him but I’m sure none of us will be able to remember it!!

Mildred and her calf
Mildred and her calf

I’m sorry about the quality of the photo but she wouldn’t let me get close enough to take a decent one.

The second new arrival came early this morning.  Our jersey milking cow had a heifer calf.  Again no name but will keep you all updated.

Jersey cow and her calf
Jersey cow and her calf

This cow at least allowed me to get pretty close for a photo but was still quite wary of me.

We have already been milking our Friesian cow since she calved a couple of months ago. I have been making cheese a few times a week, with the rest of the milk going to our piglets.  But now that we are going to double our volume my husband will separate some so that I can make butter from the cream.