Earlier this year my No 1 son asked me to cut his hair. I have been doing this on and off for a couple of years, but not often enough that I remember which clippers are the best ones to use.
We got all the clippers out and onto the back verandah and got ourselves set up. I was in a bit of a rush because it was getting late and I like to cut hair just before we have tea so that we can have showers and clean up and not be all itchy.
My son normally has a clipper cut now as he is a shearer and it can get really hot in the sheds.
So off we go, I get the clippers plugged in and start on the back, as I have had bad experiences and I want to make sure the clippers are working.
Now the clippers weren’t working properly so we fiddled with them a bit and kept going. After a bit of frustration I grabbed the little clippers that we have and started with them and it was going quite well but because his hair was longer than normal the clipper head was getting clogged.
As I put those clippers down I accidently pushed in the cutting head and changed the setting, without noticing. I got the other ones, but they still wouldn’t work, frustration is now building and it is getting darker so I grab the other head (that I had pushed in) and went straight over the top of my sons head.
All of a sudden I realised that the head had been pushed in and I had almost shaved a strip on his head. There was a little bit of stubble there but not much.
Well, I was very upset (to say the least) and very sorry, but my son just said “oh Mum don’t worry, it’ll be alright”.
I had no choice now but to keep going and the more I cut the worse I felt.
To make a long story a tiny bit shorter. I finished cutting his hair and then spent the next 4 days apologising for his hair cut and my son spent the next 4 days saying “it really is ok mum I don’t mind, I actually like it”.
Now he had to put up with a fair bit of ribbing and questioning, and all he answered them was “I’m built for speed”.
He didn’t say once that his mother had stuffed up and shaved his head. He never made me look bad to anybody and now says he wants me to cut it again. (You can imagine I am slightly hesitant to do so).
Now to the point of telling you all this:
- I stuff up at times, I am not perfect;
- I have a very loving and forgiving son;
- I learnt a very valuable lesson that day and not just that I should check the head on the clippers before beginning, but that I should try to be as forgiving as my son is.
But the most important lesson is to remember to forgive myself, I think I struggled with that the most. I really have trouble forgiving myself when I do things wrong or make mistakes.
Now I know that God forgives me and I know that my son had too so what is so hard about forgiving myself and moving on.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Romans 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Sometimes there are ramifications for the things that we do, sometimes to us and sometimes to others. In my sons case I felt big time guilt, but he was the one who had to walk around with an almost shaved head.
Now I must focus on the fact that I am forgiven and learn from my mistakes and move on, and stand forgiven and renewed to live (or cut hair) another day.
Do you have trouble forgiving yourself?? What scriptures do you turn to for help??
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